Recently I made the decision to take 5 months off.
So this Blog is for working Mums, and those who are stuck on a constant treadmill.
As a Mum of 3, a business woman, a permanent university student and a passionate life lover, making a decision to take time to do ‘stuff’ isn’t easy. Couple the diary of that kind of person with a constant need to see and experience new things can make life a little if not very, tiring.
You know the stuff I mean when I say “time to do stuff”: go to an event, follow up on something that takes your fancy, see people you’ve missed, take time to read all day somewhere lovely, use the great recipe you’ve kept, browse is a shop instead of entering and leaving at one hundred miles an hour because you simply cant afford to ‘waste’ time.
Call it a personality trait, call it restlessness, call it whatever you like but I have a huge desire and passion for life; which means I see opportunities around me at every turn. I also have huge personal responsibility towards my future, my children’s future and the happiness of my family. As a women’s coach I “get” the guilt/balance/carer role/ career thing. I have always recognised though that as women our happiness is a product of our own making.
To the main point of this blog… my priorities shifted this year, and I feel fortunate (if not a little deserving) to be able to follow up on my whims, I am fully aware not every one can (although this is a product of my own planning I might add).
Probably because ill be celebrating my Fortieth soon and for one summer only I wanted to just BE… for me this means experiencing things in the moment without the constant need for drive or strive (which is definitely in my blood).
this is the last year my son will be at home in the day during school time, this is the last year ill have a tiny one around and I was not going to miss a moment to chase things… that right now have shifted in their level of importance.
Have you checked the importance of things lately?
I say yes a lot to opportunities, and these things are normally spotted as a client, a new contact, a new relationship, a new way of communicating (twitter, blog, web, etc), a new development angle, a new study, new news…. basically anything NEW. I love fASHION, Trends, in business and in products. I love ebbs and flows of peoples demands and most of all I love learning. But I recognise the drain this puts on me because most of all I want to have stopped the world for a time, to watch my children grow, to idle around Museums and exhibitions and delay decisions for a time, to listen to more music, to dance. I know my clients will be there for another day. I wont fret if I don’t post to Twitter, I will feel free to walk the beaches and laugh at the emptiness of my thoughts for a while. Who knows what thought ill have as a result? Who knows what thought I would miss if I didn’t?
Because I know, my agenda from October is packed, my learning opportunities are ever present, and my desire for new things is still being met through my new ability to say NO. Ive stopped my world and I’ve got off. Im proud I took the time to listen to me.
This is not easy, im so tempted to look at conference news, development meetings, hold another talk. But for now it can wait.
What are you waiting for?
What are you delaying?
What would you really like to do today? And what is really stopping you?
I’m taking my Own time, and owning it before the agenda comes back with a ferocious pace of which I am all too accustomed. I was beginning to think that pace was normal. Phew